The decisions we make while parenting a tween or teen can be tough, and we all have moments where we second guess ourselves.  We might worry if we are making the ‘right decision’ especially when it comes to hot-button topics like technology, boyfriends and girlfriends, sleepovers and parties. What is too strict and what is reasonable? At what point do we take cues from other parents, and when do we follow our gut instinct? 

Please take some comfort in knowing that there is rarely a right or wrong answer, unless it is an all-out safety issue.  And being on the stricter or more lenient side doesn’t make you a good or bad parent. Neither do either of these assure you that your tween or teen will always make safe choices or stay away from risk taking behaviour.  Isn’t that an important thought? Parents have a lot of influence, but far less control than they realise. FAR less control.  In the long run, what is more important than whether you were strict or lenient, is whether you were connected.